I’m the first to admit I am
obsessively a little over protective of all my children, and as a result they are probably quite sheltered, but at 4 and under they should be sheltered shouldn’t they? I don’t want them to have to worry about anything more than what is next in their advent calendar, I want them to be happy and carefree for as long as possible.
I always knew that Z starting school would be a big change for us, I knew he would learn things from other children that I would perhaps not want him to know. What I hadn’t factored in was what he would learn from school itself. My little boy is very serious and like a sponge, he takes everything in and dwells on it.
One day he came home talking about ‘the poor children in Africa, who don’t have homes or places to cook’. He wanted to send money for seeds and some rice pudding into school (seeds for Africa got a bit mixed up with the local food drive). While I wouldn’t have chosen to tell Z about children in other countries who are not as lucky as him at this particular point, it didn’t seem to worry him too much, and was possibly even a good thing, as it has made him appreciate the food we have a little bit more.
I was a lot less happy when he came home very worried after Remembrance day talking about the soldiers who died, worried about where they had gone and worried about what had happened to them. While I do appreciate at some point my little boy will realise the world is not a nice place, I don’t necessarily think it has to be at age 4.
What do you think? Am I wanting to protect Z too much? Trying to keep him too sheltered? Or should we keep our children believing the world is wonderful for as long as possible.