I’m very conscious about not passing my own personal insecurities down to my children, especially my girls. I’m not a very girly person, so they don’t see me spending hours on hair, nails or make up. Mostly I just try to not look too much of a state when I leave the house, but to be honest most of the time, if I can get out with my hair brushed, teeth cleaned and three children in tow, I consider the morning a success. I don’t remember being conscious of how I looked until I was a teenager and I hope the same is true for my girls, I’d hate to think of them worrying about how they look before that point. I do of course, like most women have my own insecurities. I HATE my big nose and wearing my glasses makes me less confident, which I know is silly, but they’re quite thick and I just feel like everyone is staring at me, which underneath I know isn’t true, but I can’t help the way I feel.
In some ways I’ve become less confident as I’ve grown older, I’ve worn more make up and spent longer on my hair in the last couple of years than I ever did before. When I first started work in London, I’d get on the train with wet hair clipped back and no make up at all, such was the confidence of a fresh faced 20 year old.
I tell my girls they are amazing clever, kind and gorgeous every day. I try to instil in them that the most important thing is to be kind to other people, to help people, to be a good person. I don’t know whether that’s the right approach or not, but I hope with all my heart that I am bringing up two strong minded, confident and kind hearted little ladies.
Dove has commissioned research of 2,000 women who have a relationship with a girl aged 7-17 to explore this subject. Dove found that the majority of women dislike at least one aspect of their appearance, and have admitted to airing their insecurities in front of their child, or other girl they are close to. I’m pretty sure I haven’t shown my girls my insecurities yet, but I can see how that would happen with an older child.
The research also revealed young girls are much less likely to experience anxiety over their appearance if they have a positive role model.
Dove is asking women to help the next generation by ensuring their own beauty legacy is a positive one. What would your beauty legacy be? do you think you’re a positive role models to the young women in your life?
This video, created by Dove shows how much parents can influence their children, as a Mother I feel a strong sense of responsibility to be a positive influence in how my girls feel about themselves, and I’ll definitely be more conscious of how I act around them from now on.
Dove have created a great selection of self-esteem building materials and activity guides for women to discuss with young girls aged from 7 to 17, so they can take steps to improve their self-esteem.
In collaboration with Dove